From Wikipedia article on Diomedes:

Diomedes, in turn, married Aegialeus's daughter Aegialia when he returned from battle. He was then appointed as the King of Argos and thus became one of the most powerful rulers of Hellas at such a young age.

(the battle referred to in the first sentence is battle at Glisas, during Epigoni war).

Later on, as explanation of why he joined the Achaean expedition to Troy, it says:

Diomedes became one of the suitors of Helen and, as such, he was bound by the oath of Tyndareus, which established that all the suitors would defend and protect the man who was chosen as Helen's husband against any wrong done against him in regard to his marriage. Accordingly, when the seducer Paris stole Menelaus' wife, all those who had sworn the oath were summoned by Agamemnon (Menelaus’ brother), so that they would join the coalition that was to sail from Aulis to Troy in order to demand the restoration of Helen and the Spartan property that was stolen.

How is it possible that a married man was allowed to be one of the suitors of Helen? (either by his wife, or - from Ancient Greek viewpoint - more importantly, by Tyndareus)

I considered that Wikipedia's narrative merely reversed the chronological order of the two events, but all descriptions I saw of the suitors of Helen was that they were kings/princes, and Diomedes only became a ruler post-marriage.

  • Wikipedia also says that when he was rumored to have courted (or married) another woman, his wife essentially left him (and possibly cheated on him and the same time). It's quite possible that she didn't even know about his extramarital wishes for Helen, and that she would absolutely not have been okay with it had she known.
    – HDE 226868
    May 23, 2015 at 22:36
  • @HDE226868 - I (or rather, Ancient Greeks :) would be more concerned from the view of Tyndareus, not Diomedes's wife. Also, the wife's adultery - from my limited understanding - happened during aftermath the Trojan expedition, 10+ years after the Suiting of Helen happened.
    – DVK
    May 23, 2015 at 22:40
  • Also, I'm unsure but IIRC, at the time polygamy wasn't officially allowed (one wife, many mistresses only)
    – DVK
    May 23, 2015 at 22:45
  • Actually Diomedes married many times....... Nov 3, 2015 at 15:35

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According to mythology and history Diomedes Married many times. Although we have no record of him divorcing or widowing and given that at the time polygamy wasn't officially allowed (one wife, many mistresses only) we can only assume that from between one marriage and the next there was some sort of divorce or death.

Quotes from Wikipedia on Diomedes' marriages

Diomedes, in turn, married Aegialeus's daughter Aegialia when he returned from battle
He married King Adrastus's daughter Deipyle.
Diomedes then migrated to Aetolia, and thence to Daunia (Apulia) in Italy. He went to the court of King Daunus, King of the DauniansThe king was honored to accept the great warrior. He begged Diomedes for help in warring against the Messapians, for a share of the land and marriage to his daughter. Diomedes agreed the proposal, drew up his men and routed the Messapians. He took his land which he assigned to the Dorians, his followers. The two nations 'Monadi' and the 'Dardi' were vanquished by Diomedes along with the two cities of 'Apina' and 'Trica'
Diomedes later married Daunus's daughter Euippe
a scholiast for Nemean X says Diomedes married Hermione, the only daughter of Menelaus and Helen

So yeah he married many times

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    Do you have sources from history and mythology for many marriages? Thx
    – DVK
    Nov 4, 2015 at 0:23
  • @DVK updated the answer after very long time. Sorry for the delay Nov 30, 2015 at 10:03

Of what I have been able to find, none of the surviving ancient source material for these myths tells us when the suit for Helen at Sparta occurred in relation to the Epigoni's battle on Lake Glisas, nor when Diomedes got married to Aegialeia [Aegialia] in relation to either of these aforementioned events. And Wikipedia (per the article you are citing) supplies no sources for the claim that Diomedes was wed after fighting at Thebes.

The best we would have available in the absence of such mentions is guesswork. I highly doubt the Wikipedia article is intentionally lining up a chronology between Diomedes' wedding on the one hand and the Epigoni's sacking of Thebes on the other hand. To me it reads like it's simply explaining the reasons for Diomedes' obligation to participate in the Trojan War rather than indicating that all of that paragraph's events necessarily take place after those narrated in the preceding one.

Notice that the last sentence before the one you've quoted about Diomedes becoming a suitor of Helen is discussing the death of Diomedes' kinsman Thersites during the Trojan War, an event which undoubtedly takes place after the suit of Helen. Based on this it seems quite reasonable to me to understand the statement about Diomedes becoming a suitor as simply mentioning a prior event in his life which led to his involvement in the Trojan War.

None of the surviving ancient mythography to which I refer, above, precludes the interpretation that:

  • The Epigoni fought at Thebes and conquered the city.
  • Shortly after that the famous Oath of Tyndareus was exacted from the suitors of Helen.
  • And then, as we know, only one of the suitors, namely Menelaus, won the prospective bride's hand in marriage, and everyone else went off to seek wives elsewhere. Among these unsuccessful suitors was Diomedes, who then, only at this point, went on to marry Aegialeia.

In The Greek Myths (Penguin Books, 1960), Robert Graves describes (on p. 630) the suit of Helen taking place when Diomedes had arrived at Sparta "fresh from his victory at Thebes". None of the ancient sources cited by Graves specifies such a sequence of events, so I suspect that Graves is simply deducing this based on certain variables, such as, perhaps, how young Diomedes is supposed to have been during the war at Thebes (around fourteen or fifteen years old), making it fairly implausible that he would have been suing for marriage earlier than that.

According to Carlos Parada's website the Greek Mythology Link (GML), there were indeed no commoners among Helen suitors. However, this does not mean that every single one of the suitors was necessarily the ruler of the domain from which he hailed. Several of them, as you say, were merely princes, and not especially the heirs-apparent to the thrones of their realms.

For example:

  • Clytius was not the ruler of Oechalia at the time, his father Eurytus was.
  • Telamon was still king of Salamis when his sons Ajax and Teucer each went to Sparta to stake their claim upon Helen. Telamon continued to rule even after the end of the Trojan War.
  • Among the suitors there were three Cretans: Idomeneus, Meriones and Lycomedes. Only the first of these was the king of the Crete, and Meriones was his underling.
  • Patroclus is listed among the suitors, and he may even have been an exile (albeit one of royal lineage) at the time of the suit.

Apart from Diomedes, three other Epigoni are also listed among Helen's suitors, namely Sthenelus son of Capaneus, and the brothers Amphilochus and Alcmaeon. All three were Diomedes' relatives from Argos; and Amphilochus and Sthenelus are known to have become royal rulers in Argos alongside Diomedes only after the battle of Lake Glisas.

Alcmaeon was never such a ruler anywhere, it seems, but he is known to have been married. Sthenelus presumably was also married, as he had a son, Cometes, who is notorious for having cuckolded Diomedes during the Trojan War.

The stories of Sthenelus, Amphilochus and Alcmaeon as Epigoni suitors of Helen seem to be parallel to that of Diomedes: they were fairly young men (maybe even just boys) when they fought at Thebes; they won that war; went to Sparta each in a bid to become Helen's husband and failed at this; and then they found other brides elsewhere.

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